What do you think of this?
15 May 2010
“Maybe because I’m in front of the camera so much and people see where I am – I’m in LA. I’m in New York. I’m here or there – the bottom line is I’m just doing what every other mom is doing. They just don’t have cameras following them so people can’t keep tabs on how many hours a day they spend with their kids. I have to do it. I have eight kids. It’s not a joke, it’s the truth. I have to provide for them.”
That was quoted from Kate Gosselin (from what I understand, Jon is trying to file for full custody of the kids since she’s gone so much with doing Dancing with the Stars).
So – I guess my question is this – would you leave your children with nannies for days at a time in order to support them? Personally, I couldn’t do it (and don’t agree that she’s “just doing what every other mom is doing”) – I need to see my son every day and be the one tucking him in to bed at night.
What about you guys?
To me, putting a child in daycare is MUCH different than leaving them for days at a time….
“Maybe because I’m in front of the camera so much and people see where I am – I’m in LA. I’m in New York. I’m here or there – the bottom line is I’m just doing what every other mom is doing. They just don’t have cameras following them so people can’t keep tabs on how many hours a day they spend with their kids. I have to do it. I have eight kids. It’s not a joke, it’s the truth. I have to provide for them.”
That was quoted from Kate Gosselin (from what I understand, Jon is trying to file for full custody of the kids since she’s gone so much with doing Dancing with the Stars).
So – I guess my question is this – would you leave your children with nannies for days at a time in order to support them? Personally, I couldn’t do it (and don’t agree that she’s “just doing what every other mom is doing”) – I need to see my son every day and be the one tucking him in to bed at night.
What about you guys?
To me, putting a child in daycare is MUCH different than leaving them for days at a time….
i would do what i needed to do in order to support my kids.
obviously i’d prefer not to travel if i could avoid it.
Kate Gosselin is a terrible mother. And I was a HUGE fan of the show for the first four seasons. (Yes, I watched it before the whole controversy started, and when no one knew who the were.
Well I think she will be back home with them soon because quite honestly….she sucks at dancing LOL
I was never a fan of the show and I was never a fan of her. All she did was whine and moan and groan and complain. I just never cared for her.
As for your actual question, I think I would do whatever I could to support my kids however if I was having to pay someone to watch my children for days I imagine that would eat up most of what I was making anyway so what would be the point? I would try to find a way to support them where I wasn’t gone so much.
No, I would not do that. I’d get a day job and be with my kids at night when I’m not working. She has to be raking in money from child support too. Dancing with the Stars is not necessary for her to support her kids. She’s doing it for her, not for them. She needs to just admit that to herself. There’s nothing wrong with doing something for yourself, either. The thing is, when your children are taking a back burner so you can be in the lime light, something has got to change.
I don’t pay much attention to the celebrity gossip, but that’s my opinion from the little that I know.
While it’s very difficult to relate, since I don’t have 8 children, I still believe that there are other ways to provide for your children without needing to be in the limelight all the time. Obviously, it’s impossible for her to be a stay-at-home mom with so many mouths to feed and being single now, but there has to be a way that does not involve her being away for days at a time. I agree with you completely.
SHe doesnt HAVE to do that, she chooses to do that.
Instead of trying to justify it by saying, “im like every other mom”, she should say “Im not like every other mom and my kids and I are comfortable with our lives”
Truth is, no moms are the same. She evidently is content with the way her life is, and the time she spends away. And her kids may be also.
Every one is different.
I dont feel the need to spend every second with my son, although I am his only parent and have him 90% of the time I am not working.
If i could get away for a weekend though, I would. But I cant. Me not seeing him, wouldnt stop me though. It’s the fact that I am the only person who cares for him and I dont have the money..
I go out more than you do, but far less than people I know. But also everyone around me, knows I am the only one who ever has my son, unless he is in his bed sleeping and my brother is sitting at my house. I do tuck him into bed every single night lol
* I wouldnt be able to leave him for days at a time on a regular basis, no. I dont think I could do that…
But for a weekend every so often, or jeez even a DAY! LOL, yes i could do that.
Parenting styles may differ greatly without necessarily being judged as right or wrong, or loving or not loving. Leaving children with capable and trustworthy caretakers is not right for all parents, but it is not wrong. Some parents find it difficult to provide constant care and financially support for their family at the same time.
If you only have one or two children and make a decent income, then leaving a child(ren) with nannies and such may be considering less than good parenting and may be seen as a cold approach to caring for one’s children. But you must consider the everyday struggle that many parents face of providing and caring for children.
I work for a large retail chain and most of it’s employees have children, a great deal of them have more than 4 in their household. Their constant struggle is to juggle their ever changing schedules and low rate of pay to provide for their kids and still have quality time to spend with them. So while they make not leave for their children with nannies for extended periods of time, they are however forced to leave their children in daycare or with sitters on an almost daily basis for many hours each day. And while doing so they are still only able to provide minimal resources and only the bare necessities for their kids.
If I personally had the opportunity to provide beyond just the basics for my children by having someone capable and trustworthy care for them then I would do so and know that in doing so i would be providing them a better life and chance at things they may otherwise be denied, not just material things but greater education and the best health care, and things that would enrich their lives not just in childhood but in years to come.
I simply loved that show when it first started, those children just touched my heart. I was never a fan of hers though, I felt like she treated her husband like a second class citizen. She just always rubbed me the wrong way.
She does have to provide for her children, that is the truth. However, I think her staying in the spotlight is more about being able to keep up with her new extravagant lifestyle than anything…
there are other jobs out there that allow you to be with your children BUT she does have 8 kids and over the past few years has become use to a certain lifestyle and so have her kids, private schools, keeping them out of public eye etc. that takes money and i think she is doing what she needs to do to support them and still be exposed to the life she enjoys. there are jobs that demand you be away from your children business trips over seas for 2 months, deployment, there are plenty of actors and actresses and directors who have kids should they all lose their kids? NO! i don’t even like Kate but this is one time i will defend her. John just wants more drama and to be in the public eye and child support for 8 kids. he’s a loser.
Eh I couldn’t spend nights away every week.
I also don’t think it would have been needed for her to leave to work given how much money they’ve received over the past several years, invested wisely, she wouldn’t have to work at all
on the other hand… She’s got 8 kids dancing with the stars is short term… A matter of weeks I think and the money she’ll rake in doing it will be more than most people make in a year. Add to it, her husband isn’t working so he can’t help all that much. She is kinda limited to what she can do, 8 kids is a lot, nursing won’t pay a portion of the bills they have
don’t get me wrong I don’t really care for her
People do it all the time. They herd their kids into daycare and after school care, they leave the kids alone to be latchkey and so on.
Firemen don’t see their kids for 4 days at a time.
Doctors have to leave their kids at the dinner table to report to work.
Policemen run the risk of leaving their kids with one less parent every time they walk out the door.
People in the armed forces leave their kids for years at a time AND run the risk of leaving their kids without a parent.
Many single parents have to work 2 jobs and hardly see their kids.
Deadbeat dads leave their kids without a father at all while they run around making babies everywhere or sit up being a dad to their girlfriend’s kids while they never see their own.
Some rich people leave their kids to be raised by nannies while they just go out and enjoy their wealth.
It sounds like people are just critical of her because of the WAY in which she is making money. If she was any other mother of 8, one who worked a job at a restaurant and another at the library, and we knew she left the older kids to help care for the younger ones, and we learned that she had to do this because the father ran off to be with some young slut, we’d all be praising her for her fortitude.
Yeah, I heard that he is filing for full custody, and good for him. Here’s how I see it. If she HAS to be gone all the time to “provide” for her children (personally, I see this as a desperate cry to hold on to her celebrity status), she should want them to be with their other parent. Why not? If he’s there, and he’s free, why shouldn’t he be spending some quality time with his kids? Isn’t that in their best interest?
As for her need to support the brood, well she should have thought about that when she decided to carry all six to full term. If you don’t have that kind of money stashed, or an income that would provide for that, why have 8 children? What the hell would she have done if she hadn’t had a show? And what happened to all the money that they made on that show? $50,000 to $75,000 per episode is what they were being paid. Where did it all go?
To answer your question, no. It’s bad enough having her in out of school care. We have never spent more than one night apart at a time, and never spent a full 24 hours apart, and I’m not ready for that yet.
baby sitters are fine for awhile.
I think she is doing what she has to do to provide the type of lifestyle she wants for her children. That is her choice as their parent. Given her personality type, she probably has big plans for them- all eight of them. She may want to provide college, first cars, etc for all of her kids. That is very expensive.
I’m sure it does hurt her that she can’t be there every night to tuck her children in. Like her or not she does love her kids. She’s not going to share her private pain with the public. She has said on the dancing show that she keeps it bottled up and doesn’t allow herself to feel those emotions. It may not seem like it but she truly does believe that she is doing what is in her kids best interest and making many, many sacrifices (like not being able to tuck them in everynight.)
I have never felt compelled to judge her as I cannot imagine the huge weight on her shoulders. I feel sorry for her the way her life turned out. Not to mention that cameras are in her face and people are always commenting about everything in her life. She did that first reality show and now her life will never be normal. She will always be followed.
*In her former job she was a nurse. She’d be gone some nights either way! I know not as much but still. She would also have to have at least a couple of jobs which would be the equivalent of the time she is spending away from her children.
Well, what you don’t mention is the amount of downtime she gets where she is just home with her kids and not working at all. I think if I would work a schedule similar to what she has and be able to support my kids, have enough to pay for all their colleges, and provide them plenty of space to roam I would have a hard time passing it up. I don’t think she is as bad as people make her out to be. Maybe she is gone three out of seven days for a couple of months, but what about moms who work three jobs to support their kids and is only home to sleep? Somehow they come off as brave?
I’m not totally defending her, she is whiny and high strung and could be really tough on Jon. I just think she isn’t as bad of a mother as some make her out to be.
Why doesn’t she just get a regular job like everyone else and scale back that mansion they live in? Yes, they need a lot of bedrooms but they don’t need an estate like that.
I think what she means is she is doing what every other mom is doing in doing what she needs to do to provide for her kids. She’s probably making a pretty penny on DWTS. I don’t have a problem with it. Lots of other parents on other reality shows have left their kids for it. She been traveling for a living for quite some time before DWTS, Actually, I will be traveling out of state fo five days next month for work. It is not something I have done before, but it is part of my job right now. Of course I will miss the kids, But I know they will be in capable hands with DH.
putting 8 kids in daycare is easy 6k a month. 72K a year. i don’t see how she could afford the kids on a 9-5 salary.
She’s a freakin’ millionaire from her show, so I really don’t see the “need” to go on another show to support her kids. Makes no sense to me.
You know I would never, ever do that. I panic if my kids stay all night at my MIL’s, let alone leaving them for days at a time.
I’ve always hated Kate AND Jon.
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