Question by Reina B: Can someone advise me on the following questions? Thanks so much in advance! 
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I have some questions. Please take the time to read all this and see what you have to offer.
I have a very strong desire to nurture, cuddle and love. I even feel sensitive to other babies that cry that aren’t even mine. I’ve cared for many babies that were not my own, and I’ve done an awesome job at it. The maternal instincts inside of me, the gift that is provided to every woman, makes me strongly desire children of my own. I really want them, but here is what I’m dealing with.
1.I have a condition that has a one hundred percent chance of spreading from me to any child I bring into this world. There is no chance that a child will come out void of it. My children will most certainly be born with my disease. Some have told me I’m selfish for wanting to bring my own children into the world knowing they will be sick with this, but somehow, I don’t feel like that. Am I being selfish to want something that is a part of me, even though this is the case?
2.I also have a chance of having multiples. It does not run in my family. I have possibly some reproductive issues. When I say multiples, I mean more than twins. I don’t have too much of problem with this since I’ve cared for many kids at once, but I worry about some things, such as how I can give them equal attention—I’m a strong believer and supporter in the attachment style of parenting—as I don’t want any of them to feel neglected. It is one thing to care for many kids at different ages, but it is a whole new ball game when they are all the same age, especially when they are all newborn needing feedings and needing everything else. I don’t want any of my children to be deprived in the least bit, especially of the human touch and emotional well being. I want them to be happy. Perhaps, those with multiples can give some suggestions. I do learn a lot from Jon and Kate Plus Eight, but any advice is welcome. I’d like to know the following:
How can I co-sleep effectively with multiples that are newborns? I’m asking this as I’m a firm believer of co-sleeping, as I’m very against having my babes sleep on their own independently until they are ready and able to do that. I have to know that they are comfortable with this before I have them do it.
Do any of you with multiples have diaper changing schedules? Or, do you change them all the time when they are wet. Personally, I prefer to change them every time they are wet, but I’m curious what has worked for you.
Can you wear multiple newborns in a sling? I believe in baby wearing. Usually, I’ve had to wear only one baby at a time, as that is all I needed to do when I am caring for other’s babies, but with multiples, things are different. I really hope I can still baby wear since I love it so much.
This is all I have to ask for now.
I look forward to your help. Thanks so much in advance for your time in answering my questions. I appreciate it.
Best answer:
Answer by I Love Earth!
Is your condition fatal? Is it debilitating?
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til i cry :’D: What’s with all the Jon and Kate plus 8 questions?
